Misalliance

A shekarar 2007, jaridar sanar da masu karatu game da wani da ban sha'awa sosai taron. 24-shekara Argentina Reinaldo Vavekche aure 82-shekara Adelphi Volps.

Simple lissafin nuna cewa yana da shekaru bambanci tsakanin amarya da ango - shekaru 58. Wannan bai hana su daga kasancewa farin ciki tare.

Mene ne amfani ko rashin amfani da wani banbanci a cikin kwarewa da maza? Shin hikimar mazan su yi wani karin jitu rayuwar iyali fiye da a cikin hali na aure tsakanin wannan zamani? Yadda m ne matsalar, a irin wannan aure kishi? Kada mutane ayan unequal aure to amince da juna? Shin, matasa, mata rinjayar mazan kamar yadda doping? Yadda za a sami wani manufa daya ga mutãne waɗanda suke kasancewa daban-daban ƙarnõnin farko? Kada haifar da wasu matsaloli ga matasa, da abokin tarayya da ya takwarorina - yara da mata daga baya aure? A daya hannun, a matsayin babban jami'in matarsa don sadarwa tare da uba da kuma uwa-in - wannan zamani?

Duk wadannan abubuwan suna fuskantar da maza a kowane "unequal aure". Kuma a cikin kowane hali da suka yi niyyar zartarwa a hanyoyi daban-daban.

Daya daga cikin mafi tsabta misalai na cewa unequal aure zai iya zama farin ciki - wani ƙawance Charli Chaplina da Oona O'Neill, da talented actress, 'yar marubucin wasannin kwaikwayo, Eugene O'Neill. Nan da nan bayan da bikin aure Una faɗa wa mijinta cewa ta ba bukatar wani mataki aiki, babu fina-finai, babu zaman rayuwa - kome amma soyayya. Ya kasance 54 years old, ta - 17. Suka zauna tare har 34 farin ciki shekara, ta haifi 'ya'ya maza biyar, mata uku.

Watakila batu ne da cewa ga wata mace da muhimmanci sosai wani tunanin empathy. Daga lokaci zuwa lokaci, kamar yadda suka faɗa da masu bincike, masana ilimin tunani, da wata mace yana bukatar jin kadan damu. Kuma ta mutum dole ne jijjiga don kama ta yanayin ne. Ga wani nagartaccen algorithm mace farin ciki. Hakika, mazan kuma mafi gogaggen mutumin ganin yanayi swings matarsa sauki - ya na da mafi kwarewa, mafi damar zuwa ta'aziyya da matarsa, don nuna mata cewa, ta kasance a karkashin dogara da kariya da kuma kula.

Yana da wannan dalili da cewa aure shi ne sau da yawa wani unequal shekaru na maza, inda cikin mazan mutum.

Kafin juyin juya halin a kasar, shi ya sananne - wani unequal aure. Mazan mutum, ƙaramin mace, babu matsala.

A Stalin ta Rasha kusan manta game da su - dukiya da kuma zamantakewa duka daidai, da kuma bambanci a shekara zai iya ba rama domin kudi ko sunayen sarauta. Ware faru a cikin yanayi na Soviet kafa. Da farko, a cikin unequal aure ya rayu kansa Stalin, matar ne ya junior da shekaru 24. A arba'in, ya auro 16-shekara Nadezhda Alliluyeva.

Yana da ban sha'awa cewa 'yarsa Svetlana, na farko shine aka lazimta ma a shekaru 16. Kuma ta zaba daya, screenwriter kuma darektan Alekseyu Kapleru, ma, shi ne a wancan lokaci 40.

Duk da haka, wannan labari ya ko kuma m, amma takaice. Stalin da sauri aika da ƙaunataccen 'yar su kwantar da ardor na soyayya a cikin sanyi Siberia.

Shi ne kusa da Kremlin da kuma goyan bayan da mutane, sai su yi magana, "Institute of unequal aure." Kuma mafi yawan wadannan iyalai sun kasance musamman nasara. Alal misali, na uku aure na almara Semona Budonnogo tare da 'yar da matarsa ta biyu, ya, bisa ga shaidu, a model na tausayi, soyayya da kuma iyali farin ciki.

Champion a cikin wannan ma'ana ya Sergey Vladimirovich Mihalkov - bambanci tare da matarsa ya kasance 47 years old. Family hadisin ba katsewa, da 'ya'yan Sergey Vladimirovich - dansa Andrei Konchalovsky bambancin da matarsa Yuliey Vysotskoy a shekaru 36.

A cikakken misali na mai nasara aure ba daban-daban Svetlana Bezrodnaya - sanannen violin, Oganeza na "Vivaldi-ƙungiyar makaɗa". Ambata cewa, ta kuma girma Kremlin da aure a karo na farko a cikin shekaru 16 na malaminsa, da lashe da Stalin Prize Igor Semenovich Bezrodnoff. Kuma shekaru 18 na aure da shi Svetlana Borisovna wani farin ciki mace.

Akwai wani imani da cewa a cikin iyalai inda mijin - balagagge mutumin haife mafi talented yara. A gaskiya, kome abin mamaki a cikin wannan. Manya ubanninsu ne iya biya ƙarin da hankali ga 'ya'yansu, su samar da su da mafi kyau yanayi na ci gaba, a lokacin da za a bayar da shawara mai kyau.

Tare da duk "ribobi" da "da" unequal aure ne ko da yaushe mafi daidaita fiye da aure takwarorina. Aure da babban shekaru bambanci - gata na mutane da aka gudanar da badini free. Kuma da statistics rahoton cewa kungiya ta kashin ne mafi m.

Motivation domin shiga cikin wani unequal aure ne kamar yadda daban-daban kamar yadda mutane daban-daban cewa shi ƙarasa. Watakila wannan ne sirrin nasarar unequal aure.

Bayan duk, wani farin ciki rayuwar iyali - a lokacin da daya daga cikin biyu ne yin aure ne abin da ya sa ran daga gare shi.