Perfectionism: Mene ne wannan? Da ãyõyinMu, kuma yadda za a rabu da mu

Abin da sanya mutãne canza ga mafi alhẽri, to halittu farfadowa, to isa m raga? Hakika, da bin manufa da kuma m. Duk da haka, wannan so ko kamar yadda shi ne ake kira, perfectionism ba ko da yaushe da amfani ga ɗan adam psyche. Ta yaya sanin batu a da marmarin yin duniya da kansa ya zama cikakken m pathological ra'ayin? Bari mu bincika.

Perfectionism: Mene ne wannan?

Pretty sauki tsammani asalin wannan kalma. Yana zo daga English kamala (Rus. "Aminci"). Masana kimiyya yi imani da cewa sabon abu na perfectionism ake dangantawa da zamanin da. A sa'an nan da mutane sun koyi su jimre da yunwa da na halitta abubuwa don ƙirƙirar wani dadi sarari ga rayuwa da kuma juya wa m, na ciki gefen masa hukunci. Yana da wani hadari da yawa mazhabobin fito a wannan lokaci. Duk da haka, dole ne mu iya rarrabe bin kyau kwarai sakamakon shibtarsu da na halitta dalili na ta pathological tsari, wanda aka bayyana a cikin negation of ajizanci. Kamar yadda wani sirri halayyar perfectionism gaskiya ma rinjayar mutum cikin sharuddan inganta su zamantakewa matsayi, na sirri basira, aiki ci gaba da kuma wasu. A pathological nau'i ne neurotic yanayin, kamu da wani ra'ayi da wani kirkirarren manufa da cikakken sakamakon, wadda ba za a iya cimma. Yanzu ina tunanin ka ba za a yi mamaki: "Perfectionism - wannan shi ne" Amma akwai wani: "Ta yaya domin sanin a gabansa?"

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Perfectionism, da darajar da muka yi nazari a sama, yana da halayyar siffofin:

- ulla unattainable ko ɓarna, babban matsayin.

- shakka kamar yadda to your own ilimi, nasarori, da basira.

- m kam a kan shortcomings kuma kuskure.

- ƙara ji na ƙwarai to zargi.

- a ji na laifi ga qananan kuskure ko hasashen.

- da so a cikin wata hanya zuwa ga sadu da tsammanin na wasu, duk da babban wuya daga cikin aiki ko unenforceability.

Idan ka sami kanka a akalla daya na sama fasali, sa'an nan ku perfectionism. Mẽne ne, kuma abin da suke ta bayyanar cututtuka, mun koya. Yanzu za mu fahimci gaskiyar ko yana yiwuwa mu rabu da shi idan ya zama pathological.

Uku dokoki don zubar

Idan perfectionism, da definition wanda yake a cikin kamus na falsafa, ya zama neurosis, m so, kana bukatar ka yi shãwara a psychologist. Yana zai taimaka kara jure danniya da kuma kawar da Pathology. Amma akwai sharudda da za su iya tallafa kam perfectionist a sakamakon:

1. Kada dauki zargi

A fili yake cewa idan wani mutum ya sanya kowane kokarin cimma wani sakamakon, sa'an nan zargi zai zama mai kunya a gare shi. Kada ku riƙi shi ma tsanani. Ka tuna: kowa da kowa yabon da suke kewaye da gaskiya ta hanyar da Prism na kwarewa, da kuma faranta kowa da kowa kawai mara kyau.

2. ma'ana kimanta sakamakon

Wannan shi ne don rage gajiya factor. Alal misali, idan wata mike A kwatsam flunked wani gwajin, abu ne mai wuya da za a fitar daga cikin institute ga wannan. Kuma lalle ne, haƙĩƙa ba zai zama mai wulãkantarwa. Ya kawai bukatar sake daukar abu da kuma kome da kome.

3. Stay kwantar da hankula

A wani lokaci a lokacin da akwai wani tseren ga cikakken sakamakon, daina nan da nan, abstracted daga halin da ake ciki kuma dauki kamar wata zurfin breaths. Yanzu ci gaba.

Saboda haka, muna gaya muku game da sabon abu na perfectionism: abin da shi ne, abin da suke a cikin ãyõyin da dokoki, domin magance shi. Hakika, da manufa daraja jihãdi ga, amma idan dai shi ba ya cutar da shafi tunanin mutum da kiwon lafiya.